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How to be sexually exciting and to enjoy the sexual experience...
If you feel like you are disconnected from your body and the whole sexual experience, you will likely not enjoy having sex or have no feeling. Your man might pound into you but you feel nothing.
The first step to starting to experience pleasure is by first embracing the idea that SEX IS GOOD! Sex is for your healing. Sex is for your well-being. Sex is for YOUR pleasure first. Sex is for the manifestation and creation of all things that you desire on the physical plane. Sex is beautiful!
You have to embrace this in your mind first so that you can embody it. When you have blocks in your mind you will feel numb during lovemaking. It won't matter how big he is or how skillful he strokes you if you have mind blocks. How are mind blocks developed? Your mind is shaped by ideas and experiences that you went through in your childhood. Your mind is also programmed by your spirituality too. If your spirituality reinforces the idea that sex is bad, even when you are with a loving partner in marriage you might still struggle with releasing yourself into pleasure, into receiving sweetness and having an orgasm.
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In our earthly experience as men,we are required as warriors to go to war at times. Our Mission is made lighter when we have a woman who prepares us before we go to battle,uplifts us when we lose a battle or nurses us when we come back deeply wounded from the battle field.Sometimes the woman has to hold the Fort as you engage in battle.They sure deserve the spoils from the war or the choicest piece of the hunted animal.
I have been privileged to have such one who has been a pillar through the times I have had to go to the battle field.I want to honor my sweetheart Harriet Scott for being the Yin so that there is balance with me as the Yang.We cannot make it on our own.That is how it was meant to be.The law of duality..........to restore Maat.Men,acknowledge and honor these women in your life.The victory wasn't your own effort.
Dr. David Scott
Husband to Harriet, Father to Haylee, Jamie and Sahra,
Specialist Dentist/Orthodontist and Dental School Lecturer.
My name is Harriet Scott...a B.A, and M.A graduate and currently a Phd. candidate. I've been married for 11years now to Dr. David Scott and we have three children. We live in Eldoret, Kenya. I am half Ugandan and half Kenyan.
I'm a lifestyle designer. I help people improve their lives through sex coaching, feminine empowerment and relationship/marriage coaching.
I have different platforms through which I share my life and support men and women in their unique paths and journey's.
The platforms on Facebook ( all fb groups) include:
#KenyanSsenga ( for marriage and relationship coaching)
#NeferFeminine ( for feminine magnetism and elegance coaching)
#SensualOpulence ( for Tantra and Sexuality coaching)
You can always d.m. me to join any of these groups, or if you are soon to be married, schedule for one of #KenyanSsenga's themed bridal showers with sexuality demos, homemaking demos, and role playing demos.
This past week I took my last born to a play group where she will be going 5 days a week from 9-2pm. My older kids were opening school too. It was such an emotional experience for me seeing that she is my last baby. My hubby is the one who broke my second born into daycare...I avoided it completely because I get separation anxiety.
I kept asking myself if I was doing the right thing and if she was ready. She seemed happy to be with the other kids, playing and being dropped to the play group..then I made a mistake of going to take some first day pictures... the moment she saw me she started screaming. She was having separation anxiety too. I felt so terrible. That I shouldn't have gone to see her in the class to make sure everything was ok. I had to leave her screaming hoping that her caretakers would calm her down. But this made me feel horrible for the rest of the day. I was so down that I couldn't eat yesterday. ..lunch, supper...hoping that my daughter will be ok with play group...second guessing myself...and all that self doubt.
The other thing that has been heavy on my mind is my older kids social and academic development. I want the best for them. I realized this morning that sometimes as parents when we say we want the best, at the back of our mind it reads like, we want them to be perfect. We want PERFECT FOR THEM. The best is not necessarily perfect. The best can be messy. Teaching our kids that they are the best even when they are messy and schooling is messy is my lesson this incarnation as a mother. I am also re-parenting myself in this, that I don't have to be perfect, but yes, I am the best.
This week I learned that our struggles are our biggest growth points. Today on self care saturday I am taking time to kiss my kids, give them hugs, be present with them as they are a reflection of me and my own inner child.
Sweet dreams Thursday @NeferFeminine Facebook group and @NeferFeminine Whatsapp group is a day when we focus on the third eye and how to activate it. The third eye connects us to our dreams and aspirations- what we desire for ourselves, relationships, families , careers, and much more.
When we open up our CHAKRAS including the third eye which is the 6th chakra ( energy center in our bodies) we become truly sensual feminine women.
If you feel stuck in life this is for you. If you want change, this is for you. This is a special day for you to tap in and discover ways you can catch dreams, get ideas for your life, be inspired, daydream and dream big, which is all connected to the third eye also called the pineal gland.
The pineal gland (also called the pineal body, epiphysis cerebri, epiphysis or the "third eye") is a small endocrine gland. It produces melatonin, a hormone that affects the modulation of wake/sleep patterns and photoperiodic (seasonal) functions. It is located near to the center of the brain between the two hemispheres, tucked in a groove where the two rounded thalamic bodies join. The third eye is the area of your brain that thinks and has light bulb moments. Every manifestation of a dream on the physical plane begun first in your mind and higher frequencies of thought so you have to master your mind and learn how to channel THOUGHT to the physical dimension. Higher frequencies are best channeled to us through our third eye when we are asleep or in sleep state or when we are in a meditative state, visualizing that which we want to experience in our lives.
Dream Catchers have been used in several cultures to catch good ideas and dreams as filtered to us in our sleep state. Good dreams are sure to come along if you hang a dreamcatcher above your bed. In Native American culture dreamcatchers are handmade crafts that consist of a round hoop (often made of willow wood) woven with a loose web of yarn and decorated with beads and feathers hanging below the hoop.
Traditional dream catchers are made with eight points where the web attaches to the hoop. These eight points represent the eight legs of a spider. The spider symbolizes energy, wisdom and learning. The dream catcher would allow good dreams to pass through and float down the hanging beads and feathers to the sleeping person.
Other ways to activate the third eye is to use aromatherapy, sound therapy, mantras, positive affirmations, crystal therapy, nutrition, yoga, reflexology and nature.
For more info on #SweetDreamsThursday join my women's only facebook group, Nefer Feminine at:
The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is loosely translated as “Wand of Light.”
Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage. Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.
Beginning the Massage
Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and his genitals clearly exposed for the massage. Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to get the receiver to relax. Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into relaxation.
Pour a small quantity of oil on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take time when massaging the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with your right hand, pull up and slide off, then alternate with your left hand. Take your time doing this, right, left, right, left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the squeeze at the head of the Lingam and then sliding down and off. Again, alternate with right and left hands.
Massage the head of the Lingam as if you are using an orange juicer. Massage all around the head and shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body. It is believed that many ailments may be cured by a good Lingam massage. The Lingam may or may not go soft as you perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn't get hard again. You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.
If it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate, back off, allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do this several times, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off. It is important to remember that the goal is not orgasm in and of itself. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is a very expanded sex life.
Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe larger midway between the testicles and anus. Be gentle and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep inside and it may be uncomfortable at first. Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam with your right hand and massage his Sacred Spot with your left hand.
Try pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation. The man may have strong emotions come up during access to the Sacred Spot. Be the best friend and healer he could have in that moment. You, the giver, are creating a place of trust and intimacy.
Ending the Massage
When he feels complete (with the massage), gently remove your hands cover him and keep him warm. Most importantly, allow him to rest quietly for at least five to ten minutes.
A sensual woman embodies femininity in all its magnificence and is absolutely mesmerizing to those around her. She possesses a certain sparkling quality that radiates from the inside out.
Sensuality starts with a heightened awareness to pleasure. Not just the kind of pleasure found in the bedroom, (although important ;) -- it’s also seeking to find enjoyment in all things. Thus sensual women have more sex, experience more pleasure in life, and feel at peace with who they are.
Sounds good, right?!
It is good. In fact, it’s better than good - it’s blissful!
Studies have shown that women who are exceptionally sensual live for the moment and are not stuck in the past or pre-occupied with the future. They take pleasure in life moment by moment delighting in the fullness of each experience.
Sensuality at its core is enjoyment; enjoyment of experiences, people, intimacy, and most importantly enjoyment of self.
If you’re ready to get in on the action and access your sensuality, read on to discover the 3 secrets to being a sensual woman.
1. Joyful Alignment
To experience sensuality is to truly connect with your joy and pleasure. A sensual woman knows how to really enjoy herself and will play full out! Find opportunities each day to ditch your serious side and simply have a blast. Joy leads to ecstasy. Turn up your favorite song and sing along at the top of your lungs. Or equally fun, dance around your living room with full abandon. A sensual woman is vibrant, happy and vivacious. That exultation of spirit, pleasure, passion and delight is yours for the taking. So, find your joy and live full out. You will dazzle with your sensuality when you abandon yourself to joy.
2. Bask in your body
Tuning in to the pleasures of your body is one of the fastest ways to access your sensuality because sensuality is experienced by the body. So, enjoy your body and luxuriate in its splendor.
To truly embody sensuality, you must release self-criticism. Instead of focusing on your flaws turn your attention to your loveliness. Begin today to start appreciating, accepting and yes, even loving your body. No matter your size, your body IS beautiful. Shower yourself with praise and affection. Bask in your unique magnificence. You’re only given one precious body in this life. Treasure it as the valuable gift it is.
Delight your senses to get in tune to your bodies pleasure. Take a long, hot, bubble bath by candlelight. Slather your soft skin with a sensuous smelling lotion. Clothe your feminine curves in fine quality garments of silk and cashmere. Ditch your trousers and loafers and don a sultry dress and sexy stilettos. Wear lovely lacey panties and spritz yourself with your favorite perfume. Viola! With your sensual senses on overload you’ll glow with the radiant confidence of the enchantress you truly are.
3. Revel in your feminine essence
As a woman you have an innate gift of flirtatiousness, playfulness, and softness. You may have lost touch with it but this is your sensual feminine power, so reconnect with it and work it!
You are a radiant, magnificent, valuable, splendid jewel. It is your fundamental nature to shine!Feminine energy is receptive and connecting with your feminine spirit opens you to receive pleasure in all its forms. Relish all things feminine! Your vibrant female spirit is not only sensual; it creates a powerful magnetic pull that draws men to you like bees to honey.
Remember, enjoying your sensual side as a woman requires embracing your fundamental feminine nature. Your sensuality is achieved by tuning in to your divine feminine essence.
In becoming a sensual and sexy woman, it's not only important that a woman is aware of her sensuality, but is familiar with it and FEELS it. When that feeling's inside of you - as a vital undercurrent – you will embody sensuality in an authentic and powerful way.
So there you have it, a 3-step recipe to your sensual self. Reconnect with it today!
Take pleasure in your , starting today.
(source : Sherri Nickols)
Shiva and ShaktiConsciousness and EnergyAmongst the attributes of the Chakras we meet two important symbols: Shiva and Shakti.
SHIVA symbolises consciousness, the masculine principle.
SHAKTI symbolises the feminine principle, the activating power and energy.
Whenever a power becomes active, and wherever energy exists, Shakti is working. Other terms for these primal principles are PURUSHA and PRAKRITI; Purusha is consciousness and Prakriti is nature.
Lord Shiva is generally portrayed holding a trident, which represents the trinity of Īshwara, Purusha and Prakriti .
Īshwara is the omnipresent, eternal, formless divine principle; Purusha is the Ātmā and Prakriti is the manifestation, nature. An electric light can be used to explain their relationship. The electric current, which is the source of the light, is Īshwara; the light is Purusha, and the object that is illuminated is Prakriti.
SHAKTI (or Prakriti) means energy, power, movement, change, nature. It is the maternal principle – the provider, abundance. In the human as well as in the animal kingdom the mother offers nourishment, warmth and security. There is no greater love than the love of a mother. The mother carries and nourishes the child in her own body. When it is born she provides it with mother’s milk and raises it at the sacrifice of her own self until it becomes self-reliant.
SHIVA (or Purusha), on the other hand, is pure consciousness – the unchanging, unlimited and unswayable observer. Purusha has no desires whatsoever; these are inherent only in Prakriti. Purusha is the empty, clear screen onto which Prakriti projects her colourful film.
Shiva and Shakti are manifestations of the all-in-one divine consciousness - different sides of the same coin. In many pictures these two primal powers are each depicted as being one half of the same image; one side female and one side male. The left side is the Divine Mother, Pārvatī, the “feminine” energy, and the right side represents Shiva, the “masculine” consciousness.
Through the splitting of the primordial principle at the advent of creation the duality within our lives came into being, together with a strong force that is constantly striving to re-unite with the other part.
Only when Shiva and Shakti combine can action, movement and creation arise. Until energy is impregnated with consciousness it is ignorant, disordered, aimless and “blind”. Energy alone can produce nothing; consciousness bestows upon it content, form and direction. Conversely, consciousness without energy is dormant power, sleeping energy, and on its own is unable to be the cause of anything. Just as Prakriti without Purusha is unable to act, and vice versa, Purusha without Prakriti is also incapable of creating anything.
The meaning of Shiva and Shakti is occasionally misunderstood when Shiva and Shakti are looked upon as “man” and “woman” and their union is regarded as a sexual relationship. Sexuality is something completely natural, and misunderstanding arises only when sexuality and spirituality are mixed.
Shiva resides in the Sahasrāra Chakra and Shakti in the Mūlādhāra Chakra. When Prakriti and Purusha unite in the Sahasrāra Chakra, knowledge, knower and the object of knowledge become one. Once we have experienced this no desires remain within us because we realise unequivocally that everything we have ever yearned for is carried within us. In this state of absolute consciousness there are no polarities and therefore no more sorrows; there is only everlasting joy, unconditional love, unlimited compassion and total understanding for all living beings.
For as long as consciousness is connected to the physical body it is unable to remain constantly in the Sahasrāra Chakra and so returns to the residence of the Ātmā in the Heart Centre (Anāhata Chakra). A realised person always thinks, feels and acts from the heart. Embedded in eternal love and eternal happiness, that person is always conscious of the immortal Ātmā, the ocean of bliss, and their consciousness is forever connected to the divine consciousness.
( source: chakras net)
It might look like you’re just standing there, but Mountain Pose — just don't get the proper street credit it deserves. This pose is all about gaining and maintaining alignment. Balancing the masculine and feminine energy in the body, mind, and spirit. It's the one pose among many used in most practices. The foundational pose for all standing yoga poses and inversions.
In my personal practice, this pose helps me to connect to the fertile, creative feminine energy that resides within me. As I feel my feet grounding into Muva Earth, I plant seeds of growth within my womb, feeling it swell with magic and potential. It gives me the power to open my heart to infinite possibilities.
When practicing this pose, allow yourself to be rooted and fully supported by Muva, knowing that you are always safe and looked after. Try placing your right hand on your belly ( womb ) and your left hand on your heart, Now...... feel the energy and power to manifest within.
Benefits of Mountain Pose:
Strengthens thighs, knees, and ankles
Increases strength, power, and mobility in the feet, legs, and hips
Firms the womb (abdomen) and buttocks
Reduces flat feet
Develops strength and flexibility simultaneously in the spine
Relieves tension, aches, and pains throughout the body
Improves blood circulation
Encourages healthy digestion and elimination
Leaves you feeling refreshed and rejuvenated
Expels dullness and depression
Harmonizes the body and mind
Increases energy and enthusiasm
1 .Step to the top of your mat, big toes touching, you can leave a little space in the backs of your heals. Ground through your feet, feel your weight evenly balanced through the bottom of each foot.
2. lift your knee caps, squeeze your thighs and tuck the tailbone slightly under. Feel your hips aligned directly over the ankles. The legs are straight, but the knees are not locked back.
3. Inhale the crown of the head shoots right up into the sky, exhale the shoulders soften away from your ears.
4. inhale the arms up, bringing the palms together, or place your right hand over your womb, and left hand over your heart. Bringing your hand into prayer position is option as well.
5. Breathe and hold pose for 4-8 breaths.
(Source: Sho Shan Yogii)